In today’s world, the ability to come across as confident is so essential for a whole host of activities; from landing a date to securing your dream job. However, many of you struggle with appearing confident. Not everyone has the ability or belief in themselves to come across as confident. You may have heard of the “fake it until you make it” approach, and there is certainly something true in this phrase.
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Here are a few tips on how to appear confident, even when you are not:
Watch your body language
One of most basic changes you can make is in how you hold yourself. Often when you are feeling a lack of confidence, you have the tendency to slouch or fiddle. Simply by standing up straight and using positive hand gestures, you can instantly appear more confident. If you don’t believe it, get a friend or family member to come into a room with two different postures and then determine which posture looks more confident than the other.
Maintain eye contact
Maintaining eye contact can be difficult. However, if you master this, you will appear much more confident. You do not need to continually look the person in the eye, as this may appear unnatural. The best approach is to try and match the eye contact of the person with whom you are speaking. Positive eye contact will also ensure that you feel in control.
Think of yourself as confident
You will appear more confident if you fill your head with positives thoughts about yourself. If you are about to go into an interview, rather than focusing on what you don’t know, instead think about any positive feedback you have had in the past regarding your skills/strengths. Focusing on your positive aspects should help you come across confident within the interview.
It can be very easy to speak at a rapid pace when you are feeling nervous since you want to get through the event that is making you feel that way, such as a job interview or a first date. However, rapid speech can cause you to come across as nervous. Proactively trying to slow down your speech helps you to appear calm and confident. A fantastic course offered by Oxbridge is Effective Communication Level 2.
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Additionally, If you have an interview coming up, or you wish to learn some new skills, consider taking Oxbridge’s free, online Interview Skills Short Course. This course specifically addresses how to deal with the inevitable nerves. For access to this course take a look on our website or give us a call on 0121 630 3000